Miss Barbara, ma'am
(Southern-speak for too-friendly-to-
address-by-last-name, but unintroduced-
thus-cannot-address-by-first-name),
Thank you for a very pleasant Sunday
afternoon. I stumbled across your
magazine, and laughed till I cried
while reading your Manners articles.
My favorite was "It's the Rudeness,
Stupid!"
You see, when I answer the telephone
and hear a chipper, "May I speak with David,
please?" I usually give a withering,
"Mr. Denny is at work! This is Mrs. Denny.
May I help you?!" Stress on the
Mr.,/ stress on the Mrs.
Anyone who sounds that young
and perky cannot possibly
know us well enough to address us by
our first names.
Anyway, as for my stumbling across you, I
have a youngish friend who is expecting
a baby soon. And whle talking with her
about her plans for home birth, I dug out
my old childbirth cache and
was rereading, with great pleasure,
Caterine Milinaire's Birth.
The women who shared their birth stories
in there had become so very familiar to me
over the years (I have 5 children),
so in an idle moment, I decided
to Google around and see who was still
in the public view. Some were and
some were not, but when I came across
your photograph, chin lifted in challenge,
hat tilted at "spy angle," on the page
for the Cambridge Who's Who,
I just could not put that face together with
the curly-headed, casual young mom
in sneakers, sitting in a shopping cart
in the parking lot of a bank!
But as I read on, it obviously was you,
indeed. Seeing that your little Jamie,
who was pushing
the cart, is now the handsome James
on this very website was a delight.
I'm sure you're rolling your eyes and gasping,
"Who in the world is this crazy woman?!"
and all I can say is, I am
someone who once felt she really knew
you, if only through the printed page
and a couple of photographs.
In many ways you and I are polar opposites,
but, lady, I love your views on manners,
morals and modern times!
Thanks again for a happy read.
Dorothy Denny, May 18, 2009